January 01 - 09 ~ Dog
January 10 - 24 ~ Mouse
January 25 - 31 ~ Lion
February 01 - 05 ~ Cat
February 06 - 14 ~ Dove
February 15 - 21 ~ Turtle
February 22 - 28 ~ Panther
March 01 - 12 ~ Monkey
March 13 - 15 ~ Lion
March 16 - 23 ~ Mouse
March 24 - 31 ~ Cat
April 01 - 03 ~ Dog
April 04 - 14 ~ Panther
April 15 - 26 ~ Mouse
April 27 - 30 ~ Turtle
May 01 - 13 ~ Monkey
May 14 - 21 ~ Dove
May 22 - 31 ~ Lion
June 01 - 03 ~ Mouse
June 04 - 14 ~ Turtle
June 15 - 20 ~ Dog
June 21 - 24 ~ Monkey
June 25 - 30 ~ Cat
July 01 - 09 ~ Mouse
July 10 - 15 ~ Dog
July 16 - 26 ~ Dove
July 27 - 31 ~ Cat
August 01 - 15 ~ Monkey
August 16 - 25 ~ Mouse
August 26 - 31 ~ Turtle
September 01 - 14 ~ Dove
September 15 - 27 ~ Cat
September 28 - 30 ~ Dog
October 01 - 15 ~ Monkey
October 16 - 27 ~ Turtle
October 28 - 31 ~ Panther?
November 01 - 16 ~ Lion
November 17 - 30 ~ Cat
December 01 - 16 ~ Dog
December 17 - 25 ~ Monkey
December 26 - 31 ~ Dove
If you are a Dog: A very loyal and sweet person.Your loyalty can never be doubted. You are quite honest and sincere when it comes to your attitude towards working. You are a very simple person, indeed. Absolutely hassle free, humble and down-to-earth!! That explains the reason why your friends cling on to you! You have a good taste for clothes. If your wardrobe is not updated with what is trendy, you sure are depressed. Popular and easy-going. You have a little group of dignified friends,all of them being quality-personified.
If you are a Mouse: Always up to some sort of a mischief! The mischievous gleam in your eyes is what makes you so cute and attractive to everyone. You are an extremely fun-to-be-with kind of person. No wonder, people seek for your company and look forward to include you for all get-togethers. However, you are sensitive, which is a drawback. People need to select their words while talking to you. If someone tries to fiddle around and play with words while dealing with you, it is enough to invite your wrath. God bless the person then!
If you are a Lion: Quite contradictory to your name, you are a peace loving person. You best try to avoid a situation wherein you are required to fight. An outdoor person, you dislike sitting at one place for a long duration. You are a born leader, and have it in you how to tactfully derive work from people. You love being loved, and when you receive your share of limelight from someone, you are all theirs!!!! Well, well... hence some people could even take an advantage, flatter you to the maximum and get their work done. So be careful.....
If you are a Cat: An extremely lovable, adorable person, sometimes shy,with a passion for quick wit. At times, you prefer quietness. You love exploring various things and going into depth of each thing. Under normal circumstances you're cool, when given a reason to, you are like a volcano waiting to erupt. You're a fashion bird. People look forward to you as an icon associated with fashion. Basically, you mingle along freely but don't like talking much to strangers. People feel very easy in your company. You observe care in choosing your friends.
If you are a Turtle: You are near to perfect and nice at heart.The examples of your kindness are always circulated in groups of people.You, too, love peace. You wouldn't like to retaliate even to a person who is in the wrong. You are loved due to this. You do not wish to talk behind one's back. People love the way you always treat them. You can give, give and give love, and the best part is that you do not expect it back in return.You are generous enough.Seeing things in a practical light is what remains the best trait of you guys.
If you are a Dove: You symbolize a very happy-go-lucky approach in life.Whatever the surroundings may be, grim or cheerful, you remain unaffected. In fact, you spread cheer wherever you go. You are the leader of your group of friends and good at consoling people in their times of need. You dislike hypocrisy and tend to shirk away from hypocrites. They can never be in your good books, no matter what. You are very methodical and organized in your work. No amount of mess, hence, can ever encompass you. Beware, it is easy for you to fall in love.... ?
If you are a Panther: You are mysterious. You are someone who can handle pressure with ease, and can handle any atmosphere without going berserk.You can be mean at times, and love to gossip with your selected group.Very prim and proper. You like all situations and things to be in the way you desire, which, sometimes is not possible. As a result, you may lose out in some relationships. But otherwise, you love to help people out from difficult and tight spots when they really need you.
If you are a Monkey: Very impatient and hyper!!! You want things to be done as quick as possible. At heart, you are quite simple and love if you are the center of attraction. That way, you people are unique. You would like to keep yourself safe from all the angles. Shall your name be dragged or featured in any sort of a controversy, you then go all panicky. Therefore, you take your precautions from the very beginning. When you foresee anything wrong, your sixth sense is what saves you from falling in traps. Quite a money minded bunch you people are!!
Wednesday 1 August 2007
Sunday 29 July 2007
Kesawan, the Impressive Corridor of the Past
Medan was just a small village ath the beginning. It was founded by Guru Patimpus around 1590s. Because Medan village sits on Tanah Deli ( Land of Deli ). Kampung Medan is also referred as Medan – Deli. The original location of Medan village is an area where the River of Deli meets River Babura.
Medan did not enjoy significant development until 1860s, when the Dutch colonialists began clearing the land for tobacco plantations. Medan quickly became a center of government and commercial activity, dominating development of Indonesia’s western region.
The Dutch governed Tanah Deli from 1658, after Sulatan Ismail, ruler of the Kingdom of Siak Indrapura, yielded some of his once ruled land, Deli, Langkat, and Serdang. In 1915, Medan officially became the capital of North Sumatera Province, and officially a city in 1918.
To see the essence of Medan history from time to time, you must visit Kesawan Square and the old buildings along Ahmad Yani Street, Balai Kota Street and Putri Hijau Street. The trilogy street actually is one corridor which becomes the heart of Medan City and still reflecting a glory of the past. At the time the deli tobacco dominated the world market.
When a young entrepreneur from Netherland, Nienhuys, discovering the premium quality of deli tobacco, this village soon grow faster and know all over the world. The leaves of deli tobacco were brought to Rotterdam and made for the best cigar’s wrapper and the most expensive as well.
The presence of tobacco plantation in Tanah Deli have triggered the development of supporting sectors in Medan. Nienhuys built his office named Deli Maatschappij in Medan (now Putri Hijau Street). Simultaneously the need of the worker was in great demand. They brought coolies from China, Penang and Java. After they were no longer in plantation sector, the Chinese and European businessman built houses and new business centre in Kesawan just a few hundred meters from Deli Maatschapij office. Formerly the surrounding land was paddyfield and jungle.
This business centre which was formerly called Paris of Sumatera marked by luxurios Lonsum building (Juliana building), the romantic Tip Top Restaurant, the impressive house of Tjong A Fie, Jakarta Lloyd building which was formerly the Netherland Shipping Company, etc.
At those time, Lonsum building belonged to Harrison & Harrison Cross Field, a British tobacco company. The lift inside the building was made in 1910 can be activated until today. This lift was decorated with beautiful iron in art deco. The architectural design of Harrison & Cross Field building in London was a copy from its representative office in Medan.
There are still many old elegant buildings which are similar in appearance. Between
Lonsum building and Raden Saleh Street, there are two beautiful buildings which were formerly owned by The Netherlands Trading Company or Netherlansche Handel Maatschapij until 1929. Then there is the former City Hall of Medan which keeps the historical records about the glory of Medan. This building was contructed in 1906. In 1913 someone donated a big clock to be installed on the top of its building. He was Tjong A Fie, a Chinese mayor who was very wealthy and kindhearted man.
On the lettside of the former City Hall, stand the building of Javasche Bank (now Bank Indonesia) which was built in 1910 by the architect firms Hulswit and Fermont from Weltevreden, and Ed Cuypers from Amsterdam. This building was built in classical style plus Javanese ornaments.
Next to Hotel Dharma Deli, the first luxurious hotel in Medan which was formerly called Hotel de Boer are still to be seen inside the hotel. In 1030, there were 120 rooms available in Hotel de Boer. Some distinguished guests had ever stayed in this hitel, namely the world’s top and legendary dancer, Mata Hari and King Leopold from Belgium.
Opposite to Hotel Dharma Deli, sits the Central Post Office of Medan which was built between 1909 and 1911 by architect Snuyf who was also Director of Public Works in Indonesia. The surrounding area of the building is mentioned as 0 (zero) kilometer of Medan. Next to it, Bank Central Asia which formerly called Witte Societeit building built in 1886. The following are the Railway Station of Medan, and the hanging Bridge on top of the rail – tracks.
The City of Medan and the past are indeed very close. All the historical objects are maintained for harminous balance of a town. That is the reason why 70% of the old buildings are still going strong and become the tourism landmark at present day.
Author http://www.hokian.com
Medan did not enjoy significant development until 1860s, when the Dutch colonialists began clearing the land for tobacco plantations. Medan quickly became a center of government and commercial activity, dominating development of Indonesia’s western region.
The Dutch governed Tanah Deli from 1658, after Sulatan Ismail, ruler of the Kingdom of Siak Indrapura, yielded some of his once ruled land, Deli, Langkat, and Serdang. In 1915, Medan officially became the capital of North Sumatera Province, and officially a city in 1918.
To see the essence of Medan history from time to time, you must visit Kesawan Square and the old buildings along Ahmad Yani Street, Balai Kota Street and Putri Hijau Street. The trilogy street actually is one corridor which becomes the heart of Medan City and still reflecting a glory of the past. At the time the deli tobacco dominated the world market.
When a young entrepreneur from Netherland, Nienhuys, discovering the premium quality of deli tobacco, this village soon grow faster and know all over the world. The leaves of deli tobacco were brought to Rotterdam and made for the best cigar’s wrapper and the most expensive as well.
The presence of tobacco plantation in Tanah Deli have triggered the development of supporting sectors in Medan. Nienhuys built his office named Deli Maatschappij in Medan (now Putri Hijau Street). Simultaneously the need of the worker was in great demand. They brought coolies from China, Penang and Java. After they were no longer in plantation sector, the Chinese and European businessman built houses and new business centre in Kesawan just a few hundred meters from Deli Maatschapij office. Formerly the surrounding land was paddyfield and jungle.
This business centre which was formerly called Paris of Sumatera marked by luxurios Lonsum building (Juliana building), the romantic Tip Top Restaurant, the impressive house of Tjong A Fie, Jakarta Lloyd building which was formerly the Netherland Shipping Company, etc.
At those time, Lonsum building belonged to Harrison & Harrison Cross Field, a British tobacco company. The lift inside the building was made in 1910 can be activated until today. This lift was decorated with beautiful iron in art deco. The architectural design of Harrison & Cross Field building in London was a copy from its representative office in Medan.
There are still many old elegant buildings which are similar in appearance. Between
Lonsum building and Raden Saleh Street, there are two beautiful buildings which were formerly owned by The Netherlands Trading Company or Netherlansche Handel Maatschapij until 1929. Then there is the former City Hall of Medan which keeps the historical records about the glory of Medan. This building was contructed in 1906. In 1913 someone donated a big clock to be installed on the top of its building. He was Tjong A Fie, a Chinese mayor who was very wealthy and kindhearted man.
On the lettside of the former City Hall, stand the building of Javasche Bank (now Bank Indonesia) which was built in 1910 by the architect firms Hulswit and Fermont from Weltevreden, and Ed Cuypers from Amsterdam. This building was built in classical style plus Javanese ornaments.
Next to Hotel Dharma Deli, the first luxurious hotel in Medan which was formerly called Hotel de Boer are still to be seen inside the hotel. In 1030, there were 120 rooms available in Hotel de Boer. Some distinguished guests had ever stayed in this hitel, namely the world’s top and legendary dancer, Mata Hari and King Leopold from Belgium.
Opposite to Hotel Dharma Deli, sits the Central Post Office of Medan which was built between 1909 and 1911 by architect Snuyf who was also Director of Public Works in Indonesia. The surrounding area of the building is mentioned as 0 (zero) kilometer of Medan. Next to it, Bank Central Asia which formerly called Witte Societeit building built in 1886. The following are the Railway Station of Medan, and the hanging Bridge on top of the rail – tracks.
The City of Medan and the past are indeed very close. All the historical objects are maintained for harminous balance of a town. That is the reason why 70% of the old buildings are still going strong and become the tourism landmark at present day.
Author http://www.hokian.com
Saturday 28 July 2007
The Green Turtle, Pulau Jemur, and History of Our Ancestor
The hanging moon is above the sea. On this small island, the sound of the waves regularly breaks the silence. In the clear sky, the stars are appearing. I am longing for something but I can not say. A strange longing happens when living in isolation on the middle of the open seawhile looking at the running waves towards the edge of the beach.
The reflection of the tiny lights from the fisherman boats are sparkling like firefly. Nights is getting colder, but they are still busy with their net hoping that the fish have gone into the trap which have been casted since the day time.
The night is in the late hour. The birds have been sleeping soundly in their nest. Pulau Jemur at where I am standing right now is getting smaller. A female green turtle in scientific
name called Chelonia mydas is moving very slowly out from sea water. She is looking around to make sure the beach is empty and no other creatures except herself at the end of night.
After she feels safe and free from the waves, the female turtle slowly digs up the hole. She is lying eggs at the night. Slightly different with other egg layer animals, to lays the egg turtle will wait until the situation is completely quiet.
Although she has a great passion for laying eggs, but if any disturbance from animal or human being she will delay it and back to the sea. But when lying eggs is under process she does not care about the surroundings. She keep lying eggs until finish. Very unique isn’t it?
After she find good timing and good location, the female turtle put its body into the sands. One green turtle is able to lay 100 until 150 eggs. Not all of the eggs hatch. From one hundred eggs not more than 7 baby turtles could reach the sea safely. The nature is the key factor whether the eggs could hatch or not. I along with other participants Kemah Wartawan Indonesia in Rokan Hilir Riau are trying to learn this process with amazement.
Soon after her job done, the female turtle will make many holes which are similar in size and form to the first hole for camouflage to prevent the eggs taken away by any predator. Very smart. The male turtle sometimes helps to find the safe location for female turtle to lay eggs. Mostly this job is done by female itself.
Pulau Jemur administratively is a part of territory of Rokan Hilir Regancy, Riau. In the past time, Pulau Jemur claimed by North Sumatera and Riau, at last Riau took advantage to posses this beautiful island. Besides its beautiful panorama, this island becomes a natural breeding for green (Posal) Lanal Dumai in cooperation with Regional Government of Rokan Hilir, Riau has established the turtle conversation project. All the turtle’s eggs are kept in a special room for hatching.
Usually, after the turtle laying its eggs, the officials take the eggs carefully and put them into the pail which has been filled up with the hot sands. Then they are brought into hatchery room. In the hatchery, all eggs were laid like the shape of pyramid, and every layer filled with the sand for hatched the turtle egg easily moves out if not the hatching will die of squeezing one to another.
The hatchling of tukik then are released into available pool by official. The turtles stay there until the age of 6 or 9 months. At this age, they are strong enough to be sent back in their natural habitat, the sea. There they become a part of the ecosystem. The turtle predator are seahawk, big fishes, and other sea creatures. Here the turtle could live 15 until 20 years of age.
Usually April until June are the season for the turtle to lay eggs. But all along the year there is the turtle still laying its eggs. Every year the officers who work for the turtle breeding succeeds to hactch about 1.000 eggs. But not all of tukik (hatchlings) could survive until the old age. Hunting for turtle by irresponsible persons is very often, as a result the quantity of turtles are declining.
The reflection of the tiny lights from the fisherman boats are sparkling like firefly. Nights is getting colder, but they are still busy with their net hoping that the fish have gone into the trap which have been casted since the day time.
The night is in the late hour. The birds have been sleeping soundly in their nest. Pulau Jemur at where I am standing right now is getting smaller. A female green turtle in scientific
name called Chelonia mydas is moving very slowly out from sea water. She is looking around to make sure the beach is empty and no other creatures except herself at the end of night.
After she feels safe and free from the waves, the female turtle slowly digs up the hole. She is lying eggs at the night. Slightly different with other egg layer animals, to lays the egg turtle will wait until the situation is completely quiet.
Although she has a great passion for laying eggs, but if any disturbance from animal or human being she will delay it and back to the sea. But when lying eggs is under process she does not care about the surroundings. She keep lying eggs until finish. Very unique isn’t it?
After she find good timing and good location, the female turtle put its body into the sands. One green turtle is able to lay 100 until 150 eggs. Not all of the eggs hatch. From one hundred eggs not more than 7 baby turtles could reach the sea safely. The nature is the key factor whether the eggs could hatch or not. I along with other participants Kemah Wartawan Indonesia in Rokan Hilir Riau are trying to learn this process with amazement.
Soon after her job done, the female turtle will make many holes which are similar in size and form to the first hole for camouflage to prevent the eggs taken away by any predator. Very smart. The male turtle sometimes helps to find the safe location for female turtle to lay eggs. Mostly this job is done by female itself.
Pulau Jemur administratively is a part of territory of Rokan Hilir Regancy, Riau. In the past time, Pulau Jemur claimed by North Sumatera and Riau, at last Riau took advantage to posses this beautiful island. Besides its beautiful panorama, this island becomes a natural breeding for green (Posal) Lanal Dumai in cooperation with Regional Government of Rokan Hilir, Riau has established the turtle conversation project. All the turtle’s eggs are kept in a special room for hatching.
Usually, after the turtle laying its eggs, the officials take the eggs carefully and put them into the pail which has been filled up with the hot sands. Then they are brought into hatchery room. In the hatchery, all eggs were laid like the shape of pyramid, and every layer filled with the sand for hatched the turtle egg easily moves out if not the hatching will die of squeezing one to another.
The hatchling of tukik then are released into available pool by official. The turtles stay there until the age of 6 or 9 months. At this age, they are strong enough to be sent back in their natural habitat, the sea. There they become a part of the ecosystem. The turtle predator are seahawk, big fishes, and other sea creatures. Here the turtle could live 15 until 20 years of age.
Usually April until June are the season for the turtle to lay eggs. But all along the year there is the turtle still laying its eggs. Every year the officers who work for the turtle breeding succeeds to hactch about 1.000 eggs. But not all of tukik (hatchlings) could survive until the old age. Hunting for turtle by irresponsible persons is very often, as a result the quantity of turtles are declining.
Friday 27 July 2007
Trusted exchangers to buy your e-gold
It's really hard time for all e-gold holders. I guess that many people here would like to sell their e-gold and wait to see what will happen with e-gold legal issues. The peroblem is that it's a good chance for scammers to offer you a fake exchange service to steal your e-gold. Once you ask for an exchanger, you will get several people telling you that they are willing to buy your e-gold. Stay away from anyone who offers you such service unless you want to lose you money!
e-gold holders have 2 choices now!
1-To sell their e-gold at the current high rates of outexchange.
2-Keep their e-gold and wait.
I decided to sell all my e-gold.
First of all, i advice you to chosse an exchange service from e-gold directory
http://www.e-gold.com/unsecure/links.htm
They have their 15 exchange services. We can check them one by one in this thread.
www.asianagold.com/ Outexchange rate 50%
www.bestgoldcard.com/ Membership IS NOT AVAILABLE at this time.
www.cambist.net/ Outexchange rate 50%
www.cashcards.net/ You need to create an account&get their card first!
www.electrumx.com/ You need to be a member to get their rates!
www.eurogoldsales.com/Only 6% outexchange rate.Funds arrived in 48 hours
www.goldpouchexpress.com/ Not buying or selling e-gold
www.goldkobo.com/ Available to Nigeria residents only!!!!
www.gitgold.com/ Website is not working
www.londongoldexchange.com/ Not buying e-gold
www.thebullionexchange.com/ Their funds are seized by US government
www.icegold.com/ Not buying e-gold
www.getemoney.com/ Outexchange rate 8%
www.omnipay.com Not workign until they move to Africa!.
www.gold-thrift.com/ Not buying e-gold
It's really hard time for all e-gold holders. I guess that many people here would like to sell their e-gold and wait to see what will happen with e-gold legal issues. The peroblem is that it's a good chance for scammers to offer you a fake exchange service to steal your e-gold. Once you ask for an exchanger, you will get several people telling you that they are willing to buy your e-gold. Stay away from anyone who offers you such service unless you want to lose you money!
e-gold holders have 2 choices now!
1-To sell their e-gold at the current high rates of outexchange.
2-Keep their e-gold and wait.
I decided to sell all my e-gold.
First of all, i advice you to chosse an exchange service from e-gold directory
http://www.e-gold.com/unsecure/links.htm
They have their 15 exchange services. We can check them one by one in this thread.
www.asianagold.com/ Outexchange rate 50%
www.bestgoldcard.com/ Membership IS NOT AVAILABLE at this time.
www.cambist.net/ Outexchange rate 50%
www.cashcards.net/ You need to create an account&get their card first!
www.electrumx.com/ You need to be a member to get their rates!
www.eurogoldsales.com/Only 6% outexchange rate.Funds arrived in 48 hours
www.goldpouchexpress.com/ Not buying or selling e-gold
www.goldkobo.com/ Available to Nigeria residents only!!!!
www.gitgold.com/ Website is not working
www.londongoldexchange.com/ Not buying e-gold
www.thebullionexchange.com/ Their funds are seized by US government
www.icegold.com/ Not buying e-gold
www.getemoney.com/ Outexchange rate 8%
www.omnipay.com Not workign until they move to Africa!.
www.gold-thrift.com/ Not buying e-gold
Combating Anxiety: The Alternative Way
Tony Robinson
Tony Robinson
Perhaps you break out into a cold sweat when you have to
deliver a talk before a group of people. Or perhaps you become
nervous when you have to take a test. There are certainly
numerous causes for anxiety. Similarly, there are a number of
treatment options for those afflicted with the illness. If you
don't like the idea of medication, you might try an alternative
approach to battling your anxiety.
It is estimated that nearly seven percent of Americans suffer
from anxiety and panic disorders. While prescription drugs are
routinely offered as a remedy for such illnesses, they can be
dangerous if administered over a long period of time. Some of
the more popular anxiety drugs include Diazepam and Wellbutrin.
However, increasingly, Americans are turning to alternative
medicines in an effort to soothe their anxious feelings. In just
the last decade, the demand for alternative medicine has
skyrocketed 300 percent. This is partially the result of the
fact that many alternative medicines offer relief from symptoms
without the side-effects linked to prescription drugs. It should
be noted, however, that natural remedies are not meant to be
long-term treatments, although they can offer relief in the
short-term.
Before you buy a natural remedy, it is important that you do
your homework as far as your knowledge of herbs and vitamins is
concerned. It is also imperative that you consult your family
physician in order to ensure that the alternative treatment is
safe for you. A number of herbs offer relief from the symptoms
of anxiety. For instance, St. Johns Wort is one of the most
popular anti-anxiety herbs on the market. After taking St. Johns
Wort for as little as two weeks, you should notice a difference
in your anxiety level.
Valerian Root is another alternative option you might try. It
is especially helpful in combating insomnia because of its
sedative quality. In other words, it helps to lull the central
nervous system to sleep. Research indicates that Valerian Root
is effective in improving sleep 90 percent of the time. This is
important, since much of anxiety is linked to sleep disorders.
Vitamins can also provide an effective treatment for anxiety.
They can be quite important in enabling neurotransmitter
synthesis and maintenance. For instance, B-complex can help
produce neurochemicals, which in turn assists in the synthesis
of serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine.
Yet another aid to combating anxiety is Passion Flower. It
helps to calm the central nervous system, leading to feelings of
peace. Meanwhile, Ashwaghanda Root can make you feel stronger so
that you are better able to handle the effects of anxiety. But
perhaps no herbal remedy is quite as effective as Kava Kava.
This is considered to be one of the strongest anti-anxiety
remedies in the world. A number of studies indicates that Kava
Kava is highly effective in relieving the short-term symptoms of
anxiety. It is also considered quite safe to ingest, making it
one of the most popular herbs available on the market today.
An herbal remedy called PureCalm is being marketed as a safe
way to deal with general nervousness and worry. You may feel
relaxed after taking only a few drops of this natural substance.
However, if you suffer from severe anxiety, including panic
attacks, you might consider a remedy called MindSoothe, which
combines St. Johns Wort with Passiflora. Mindsoothe has been
linked to good sleep, greater concentration, and better memory.
Therefore, it is particularly effective in treating the symptoms
of anxiety.
We all have feelings of anxiety from time to time. But how can
you tell if your anxiety is out of control? If you experience
racing thoughts, rapid heartbeat, extreme difficulty resting or
concentrating, you probably need to get help. If you do not like
dealing with the side-effects of prescription drugs, an herbal
remedy may be in order. You should know in advance, however,
that some herbal remedies carry their own risks and lead to
significant side-effects.
The more you know about herbal remedies, the better consumer
you'll be. Don't allow yourself to be a human guinea pig. Take
herbal medication only after you have thoroughly studied its
effects upon the human body.
About the author:
Tony Robinson is a husband, parent, webmaster and international
author. Leading a full and busy lifestyle he is fully aware of
the needs of a stress free life. For tips, techniques and
further information visit http://www.stress-gone.com
Thursday 26 July 2007
Who Am I Being ?
Who am I being right now? Who was I being in that situation? These are questions I ask myself every day? I want to know. If I am interacting and the interaction feels uncomfortable--who am I being that this feels so bad? Over the years I have created many images of myself which I find myself defending, attacking, or portraying to others. In my book, The Road Home, I call these false views of self. The Arbinger Institute, authors of Leadership and Self Deception (a must read book), call these self justifying images.
A few weeks ago I found myself in a conversation where the other person became very impatient with me. I, then, became impatient with her impatience. I called attention to her impatience and made it clear I didn't like it. The next day I asked myself: "Who was I being that the person talking to me became very impatient?" The answer came: "I'm the kind of person who deserves to be treated with respect". This person wasn't giving me what I deserved, so obviously she was out of line.
This is the kind of thinking that gets us into more conflict. A Course in Miracles says there are only two kinds of thinking--love and fear. In love, I am caring and responsive toward myself and others. I am able to see the good in the other person. In fear I feel threatened and resistant both toward myself and the other. I tend to add up the faults of the other person and, of course, affirm my virtues. I tell myself this other person is disrespectful, impatient, unappreciative of me, and doesn't listen. I tell myself that I am respectful, communicating well, and would never treat her disrespectfully. This is how the image justifies itself. Does this sound a little silly? I hope so, because it is silly. It is also common, everyday, insane communications between people.
Here's the rule of thumb: if I think someone else is a problem person, then I'm the problem. This doesn't mean people don't do inconsiderate and even horrible things. This doesn't mean that I never talk to someone else about their poor behavior. It means that my discomfort, my anger, my resentment, and my irritation are not about them. Who am I being that I felt and spoke and acted the way I did? As Stephen Covey has said: "How you see the problem is the problem.". Yet, it goes beyond perception. It's who I am being that is the problem.
If I am going through my day and I feel great, my relationships feel great, and I feel in alignment with my Self I get to say, "Great! I'm doing it. I'm in the flow. I'm responding to people and to life. I'm expressing love." If things aren't going well, people are impatient with me, and I feel uncomfortable, I get to ask myself the question: "Who am I being that these things are happening?" Am I the kind of person who prizes suffering? Do I maintain it by refusing to forgive others? Am I the kind of person who likes drama? Am I starring in a drama where everyone else is wrong and I, alone, am right? Am I the hero who is going to set everyone else straight? Who am I being?
There are many self justifying images that people create. Examples include "I am the kind of person who is hardworking (not lazy), compassionate (not selfish), smart (not stupid) or not appreciated (for all that I do). We find these images in areas where we are particularly sensitive, defensive, or emotional. My example is the image that I am the kind of person who deserves respect. If this is the image I am managing then I will be on the lookout for disrespect. When I think I'm getting disrespect I will be angry, resentful, irritated. I will tend to interpret the moods of others as disrespect toward me. Wherever I carry this self justifying image I will spend my energy demanding respect rather than giving it. I will focus my energy on me rather than the other person. I will resist people rather than responding to them. I will feel threatened and fearful, and my behavior will arise from a place of fear and threat. If a person offers me disrespect, my demand for respect will not encourage respectful behavior. It will invite disrespect. But, you may ask: "Don't you deserve respect? What does one do when receiving disrespect? How do we motivate someone to be respectful?"
These are good questions. A Course in Miracles says that fear is a call for love. I have the option whether or not to answer the call. I answer the call by responding. I respond by taking the focus off me and putting it on the other person. I may ask what the problem is. I might tell the other person to back off. I may sense a deeper issue in the person and speak to it. I may let it go and not say anything. It is not what I do that makes the difference. It is who I am being in that moment. If I am responding from a place of caring about the well being of this person; of acknowledging their needs and concerns being as important as my own; and of doing what intuitively feels right, then I will respond with love. Whether my behavior is soft or hard is not important. Love can be either. Responsiveness can be either. This is not about portraying myself as a caring person (another self justifying image). It is about actually caring.
It can be difficult to get past our self justifying images because we have spent so many years crafting and protecting them. The truth is, these images are a lot of work to keep up. We must be constantly vigilant and on the defense. Wouldn't it be great to let go of the job of image management and just respond to people. Once you have decided to become aware of self justifying images and let them go the results are immediate. You extend an open invitation to all others to do the same. A sense of ease flows through you. Relationships become easier when you are responding, recognizing the humanity in others, and seeing the good in them. Others begin changing because you have given them someone different to respond to. Your love inspires, uplifts, and enlivens each person you encounter. It's not what you do for others that uplifts them; it is who you are being.
by: William Frank Diedrich
A few weeks ago I found myself in a conversation where the other person became very impatient with me. I, then, became impatient with her impatience. I called attention to her impatience and made it clear I didn't like it. The next day I asked myself: "Who was I being that the person talking to me became very impatient?" The answer came: "I'm the kind of person who deserves to be treated with respect". This person wasn't giving me what I deserved, so obviously she was out of line.
This is the kind of thinking that gets us into more conflict. A Course in Miracles says there are only two kinds of thinking--love and fear. In love, I am caring and responsive toward myself and others. I am able to see the good in the other person. In fear I feel threatened and resistant both toward myself and the other. I tend to add up the faults of the other person and, of course, affirm my virtues. I tell myself this other person is disrespectful, impatient, unappreciative of me, and doesn't listen. I tell myself that I am respectful, communicating well, and would never treat her disrespectfully. This is how the image justifies itself. Does this sound a little silly? I hope so, because it is silly. It is also common, everyday, insane communications between people.
Here's the rule of thumb: if I think someone else is a problem person, then I'm the problem. This doesn't mean people don't do inconsiderate and even horrible things. This doesn't mean that I never talk to someone else about their poor behavior. It means that my discomfort, my anger, my resentment, and my irritation are not about them. Who am I being that I felt and spoke and acted the way I did? As Stephen Covey has said: "How you see the problem is the problem.". Yet, it goes beyond perception. It's who I am being that is the problem.
If I am going through my day and I feel great, my relationships feel great, and I feel in alignment with my Self I get to say, "Great! I'm doing it. I'm in the flow. I'm responding to people and to life. I'm expressing love." If things aren't going well, people are impatient with me, and I feel uncomfortable, I get to ask myself the question: "Who am I being that these things are happening?" Am I the kind of person who prizes suffering? Do I maintain it by refusing to forgive others? Am I the kind of person who likes drama? Am I starring in a drama where everyone else is wrong and I, alone, am right? Am I the hero who is going to set everyone else straight? Who am I being?
There are many self justifying images that people create. Examples include "I am the kind of person who is hardworking (not lazy), compassionate (not selfish), smart (not stupid) or not appreciated (for all that I do). We find these images in areas where we are particularly sensitive, defensive, or emotional. My example is the image that I am the kind of person who deserves respect. If this is the image I am managing then I will be on the lookout for disrespect. When I think I'm getting disrespect I will be angry, resentful, irritated. I will tend to interpret the moods of others as disrespect toward me. Wherever I carry this self justifying image I will spend my energy demanding respect rather than giving it. I will focus my energy on me rather than the other person. I will resist people rather than responding to them. I will feel threatened and fearful, and my behavior will arise from a place of fear and threat. If a person offers me disrespect, my demand for respect will not encourage respectful behavior. It will invite disrespect. But, you may ask: "Don't you deserve respect? What does one do when receiving disrespect? How do we motivate someone to be respectful?"
These are good questions. A Course in Miracles says that fear is a call for love. I have the option whether or not to answer the call. I answer the call by responding. I respond by taking the focus off me and putting it on the other person. I may ask what the problem is. I might tell the other person to back off. I may sense a deeper issue in the person and speak to it. I may let it go and not say anything. It is not what I do that makes the difference. It is who I am being in that moment. If I am responding from a place of caring about the well being of this person; of acknowledging their needs and concerns being as important as my own; and of doing what intuitively feels right, then I will respond with love. Whether my behavior is soft or hard is not important. Love can be either. Responsiveness can be either. This is not about portraying myself as a caring person (another self justifying image). It is about actually caring.
It can be difficult to get past our self justifying images because we have spent so many years crafting and protecting them. The truth is, these images are a lot of work to keep up. We must be constantly vigilant and on the defense. Wouldn't it be great to let go of the job of image management and just respond to people. Once you have decided to become aware of self justifying images and let them go the results are immediate. You extend an open invitation to all others to do the same. A sense of ease flows through you. Relationships become easier when you are responding, recognizing the humanity in others, and seeing the good in them. Others begin changing because you have given them someone different to respond to. Your love inspires, uplifts, and enlivens each person you encounter. It's not what you do for others that uplifts them; it is who you are being.
by: William Frank Diedrich
6 Tips For Saving Gas
In the past months we have seen the price of gasoline soar higher than ever before, and this can be hard on people who have a budget that is tight. Even though gas prices have come down a slight bit, you still will want to do everything you possibly can to save on the money you have to pay out for gas. There are a variety of ways that you can save gas, and save money.
Tip#1
Start Carpooling Carpooling is a great idea for fellow students and fellow employees both. If you can find people that are going to the same place you are you can save gas by riding together. It may be a good idea to trade off on who is driving from week to week so no one person gets stuck having to drive all the time. If you have to take your children to school or other functions you can also work on trading off with your friends and neighbors to take them there.
Tip#2
Public Transportation If it is possible you can take public transportation to work instead of driving your car. Not only will this save you money on gas, but you will also be able to relax and not worry about having to drive through all that rush hour traffic. You may even be able to fit in a quick nap on your way to work or on your way home.
Tip#3
Price Shop Often it may be so convenient to buy your gas at the small gas station just up the road, but to save some money on gas you may want to check the prices at other gas stations that are nearby as well. Even if the difference is only a few cents, after putting hundreds of gallons of gas in you vehicle each year, those few cents are going to add up to quite a sum of money. Tip#4 - Get Moving You can save some money on gas if you start walking to where you are going, or you can ride a bike as well. You will not have to worry about paying to park your car, and the exercise will be great for you body. If you are walking or biking you will not have to worry about those huge traffic jams either.
Tip#5
Take Care of Your Car It is always important to take care of your car so it gets the best gas mileage possible. Also be sure to plan where you are going before you go so you will not have to backtrack and waste gas. If you can, you should use your air conditioning as little as possible because using it takes more gas. Roll down your windows and you will use less gas.
Tip#6
Check your Tires It is important that you check the air pressure in your tires as often as possible. If your tires are too low, or the pressure in them is unequal it can make your car burn more gas. You should also be careful how you drive. If you take off from every red light very fast you are going to burn more fuel, so it is best to take off a little slower. These are a few tips that can help the money conscious person to save money on gas. Even as gas prices drop, these tips can still help you to save more money. Conservation is important, so take advantage of these tips, save money, and save gas.
Tip#1
Start Carpooling Carpooling is a great idea for fellow students and fellow employees both. If you can find people that are going to the same place you are you can save gas by riding together. It may be a good idea to trade off on who is driving from week to week so no one person gets stuck having to drive all the time. If you have to take your children to school or other functions you can also work on trading off with your friends and neighbors to take them there.
Tip#2
Public Transportation If it is possible you can take public transportation to work instead of driving your car. Not only will this save you money on gas, but you will also be able to relax and not worry about having to drive through all that rush hour traffic. You may even be able to fit in a quick nap on your way to work or on your way home.
Tip#3
Price Shop Often it may be so convenient to buy your gas at the small gas station just up the road, but to save some money on gas you may want to check the prices at other gas stations that are nearby as well. Even if the difference is only a few cents, after putting hundreds of gallons of gas in you vehicle each year, those few cents are going to add up to quite a sum of money. Tip#4 - Get Moving You can save some money on gas if you start walking to where you are going, or you can ride a bike as well. You will not have to worry about paying to park your car, and the exercise will be great for you body. If you are walking or biking you will not have to worry about those huge traffic jams either.
Tip#5
Take Care of Your Car It is always important to take care of your car so it gets the best gas mileage possible. Also be sure to plan where you are going before you go so you will not have to backtrack and waste gas. If you can, you should use your air conditioning as little as possible because using it takes more gas. Roll down your windows and you will use less gas.
Tip#6
Check your Tires It is important that you check the air pressure in your tires as often as possible. If your tires are too low, or the pressure in them is unequal it can make your car burn more gas. You should also be careful how you drive. If you take off from every red light very fast you are going to burn more fuel, so it is best to take off a little slower. These are a few tips that can help the money conscious person to save money on gas. Even as gas prices drop, these tips can still help you to save more money. Conservation is important, so take advantage of these tips, save money, and save gas.
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